How to Be Less Sensitive: Do you find yourself being overwhelmed by what others say or do? Do you hear people telling you to “stop being so sensitive” and this only makes you feel worse? Why is being highly sensitive a gift (maybe you have not realized this yet) and oh so hard to manage around insensitive people?
If You Are Sensitive YOU Are Special
Have you heard of the 80/20 rule? Sensitive people make up slightly less than 20% of the population. That means that 80% of the time you are vulnerable to the rest of the people out there. How to be less sensitive requires you to learn to be insensitive when you need to be.
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Being sensitive around other sensitive people is one of the most beautiful experiences there can be. Maybe you already have this kind of connection and have discovered there are some people you are around that you don’t need to know how to be less sensitive. The free flow of energy between two sensitives is like the waves of a warm ocean coming in and out on the beach.
So how to be less sensitive 80% of your time all depends on your frame of mind. You have the ability to protect yourself from the insensitive people by operating from your source. Changing perspective to understand that whatever is happening is the other parties story is the key. You have a choice to engage in it or not.
The beauty of being sensitive is that you can develop the ability to freely choose from being sensitive 20% of your time and being protected 80% of your time. Eventually knowing how to be less sensitive will be a thing of the past and you will want to know how your sensitivity can best be expressed in the world.
When you do want to share your sensitivity, make sure you let us all know because the world will be a better place.
Who else wants to learn how to be less sensitive? I can help you. You were born that way for a reason and all you need to do is to understand why to be successful in life. Did you know your hand prints reveal your life purpose? Contact me to discover how to be less sensitive. glenn at sensitiveselfhelp.com
The number one thing that helped me become less sensitive was to learn to control the stress and anxiety in my life. I have created a free ecourse detailing what I found out about decreasing stress and anxiety. If you feel overly stressed and anxious then go get it NOW!. Free Anxiety Ecourse.
I’ll leave you with some wisdom left to us by Mother Teresa:
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may just never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it’s all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Mother Teresa
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omg im so sensitive if someone raises their voice to me my eyes tear up
Thanks for sharing this and know that your sensitivity is a strength that will serve you well in your lifetime.
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Is the 80/20 rule a rule which is recognized and documented in general.
Hello and thanks for your question. The 80/20 rule is also known as the Pareto Principal and you can read about it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle Let me know if I can help you with anything else.
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There is another 80/20 rule that states that you should listen 80% and talk 20%. This is a fundamental rule for making friends. T’is better to keep quiet and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt
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Right on Beth, Imagine how our relationships would flourish if we listened more than talk. Thanks for your input.
All the 80/20% rules discussed above make perfect sense. However, one way I look at things is that people are always going to talk no matter what you do. You could be the most perfect thing they’ve ever seen and they would still have something insensitive to say. My point is this, just be yourself, and if your friends can’t accept that, you may want to start looking at making new friends.
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my boyfriend had a girlfriend die 4 years ago and i cry everytime i think about her, she was 13, and i never knew her, i’ve seen a picture of her, and he said she was beautiful. it hurts so much. i just dont want to be sensitive about her anymore i want to move on for someone i never knew.
Hi Kiki,
Although she may have died 4 years ago, her spirit/ghost is still connected to your boyfriend. Your sensitivity is picking up on the sadness that is still present for the loss your boyfriend feels.
Because I can connect with the spirit world I will help her move into the light and you must explain to your boyfriend that he must release her memory and then you will be free.
Over the next 12 hours I will contact her and help her move on then I need you to send me a message to explain if you feel different.
In loves light,
Glenn
I’m sensitive, but not that much and I have a “best friend” who does not give a damn about anything, she’s rude, braty, greedy, selfish, un polite and swears alot, I’m not even getting good grades and she is getting the highest, people are nice to her, she thinks she’s kind, decent, the best, and at the same time she’s complaining to me 24/7 about her apperence, which is not even that bad. And now she’s telling me she has a big crush on my worst enimie. She talks about him every minute. And he bullied me for a whole year. When ever I tell her my opinion or feelings, she just brings me down even more saying, wow you are a pu$$y, you need to stand up for your self and the other day I said I know, I can’t even stand up to you, and she responded I know, thats sad in a really mean voice. she takes everthing as a joke. I had arguements with her the whole year, everyone thinks she’s better then me and I’m just not there. I wish I wasn’t even her friend. And sometimes I wonder why I still am. She’s bigger then me and laughs at my face, plus everyone makes fun of how small I am.
Thanks for sharing this. No matter if you consider yourself sensitive or not, it is obvious that this issue bothers you quite a bit. Sometimes these difficult people are in our lives to teach us. If life is GREAT we tend to not want to grow personally. Why bother? Challenges lead us to learn more about ourselves and this is what you are doing with your so called “BF”. Look on YouTube for “positivesimona” and watch her video series on the universal laws. I think they will help you.
Much luck in your journey and do let me know how you are getting on.
Glenn
PS Quite often very good things come in small packages!
I think you can be both sensitive and strong without diluting you as a person. In this world of tough and dog eat dog ideology sensitivity is a must. People are automatically drawn to you, and want to be around you. The universe needs people to be cool calm and sensitive to others around.
Hi Robert, thanks for your input. I agree, we sensitives are the people who are going to change the world for the better.
i got given some good advise once which was “dont look back you will only regret, but dont look forward you will only fret”. live for the moment, and dont take offence to insensitive people they cant/wont help the way they are.
I agree about it having to do with your frame of mind. So much of life comes down to your mind and how you decide to approach or handle it.
i completly agree about the frame of mind , im a very sensitive person if someone raises there voice at me or anything i start crying.
hey.
i wanna know how to reduce my sensitivity. i’m so sensitive that because of it ive lost many of my friends and still have no idea how to reduce it.
Thanks for reaching out.. your sensitivity is a strength that will serve you well in your life. I can help you learn… Contact me at glenn (at) sensitiveselfhelp.com
Every Living thing in this WORLD is sensitive.
Even the spiders are sensitive to vibrations on their web
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Thank you for the advice, wisdom and insight. It is nice to see sensitivity recognized as a gift rather than a flaw in character. My sensitivity makes my a great empathizer, but also causes problems in my relationship with my long-term boyfriend. I tend to think I am the cause of all frustration, hurt and worry that he experiences and I create a toxic environment when I get reactive. I usually end up reacting in a way that causes confusion for both of us and leaves me apologizing and continuing the cycle. It really has to be exhausting for him and I love him more than my actions (and reactions) suggest. I am a very confident person in all other aspects of my life. I am proud of my abilities at work, and in a male-dominated industry I can hold my own and enjoy every minute of it! I take that philosophy wherever I go, except home. When I can infuse that into my relationship, nothing will be able to stop me!
I may start a little journal to record my thoughts and happenings, and I think it will give me something else to do rather than get upset and worried. Also it may show patterns of behavior. I recognize what I am doing, but I find it very difficult to put the wheels of change in motion! Wish my luck and thanks for that great Mother Teresa quote! Cheers, Laura
Hello. I also am a sensitive. It causes me great heartache in my personal life. I am always accused of not having a sense of humor or that I “can’t take a joke!” I wish that I sometimes could just let the things people say roll right off of me but I truly feel every bit of their sharp tounges. My boyfriend says that I am way too sensitive. Everytime he is trying to joke around with me my feelings always seem to get hurt. He enjoys my sensitivity when he feels how much I love him but struggles with me in other areas. How can I become more well rounded and know when is the time to be insensitive? I think we would be perfect for each other if I could get over always feeling sensitive when he is just being playful.
Also thanks for the inspiring thoughts. I never really knew that other people felt like me! :0)
Heather
hi im a college student.a guy! im a very outgoing,funny and lively person.people often enjoy my company.but i have a problem of hypersensitivity.but i dont show it off to ppl.this is the reason why i have many friends but no real close buds.music is my only escape!
i also feel lonely sometimes even when im around a lot of friends.im even scared of getting into relationships because i just breakdown easily.i lose control easily.i just cant control my anger sadness or whatever that im feeling and this keeps me from doing anything whether an assignment or preparing for my test.
the part that i breakdown easily scares me the most..im a guy and how am i going to manage my worklife and worse how am i going to manage a family in future!!
i often coulnt sleep at night spending time thinking things that doesnt make sense!!
do i have a problem??
should i see a doctor??
or its just an overly exaggerated fear???
Thanks for reaching out I will email you some info I think will help.
Hey, this website was helpful to me. But I feel like I just have different kinds of sensitivity. As far as people being mean or saying hurtful things I can pretty much just shrug it off (unless it’s a person of authority (like my boss) personally insulting me) but relationships are fine in general. But I have huge problems with change and death and loss. Even people who I don’t know. Heath Ledger died years ago but I can’t watch his movies. I just feel so weird about death. I can’t comprehend it. Also any sort of animal abuse or child abuse or murder just bothers me so strongly. Sometimes just for an hour or so and sometimes and just cry and cry about things I can’t change. And I realize they don’t directly affect my everyday life and maybe I shouldn’t care so much but I just can’t help it. Nobody cares about anything these days and it’s really hard for me to care so much. But I am so sensitive that I can’t help. I can’t volunteer at an animal shelter or homeless shelter, I would cry the whole time. I want to help make things better but I am too sensitive to actually do anything…. Sometimes I like being sensitive. Being able to read people’s feelings and to be a good listener and really appreciate the beauty of everything around me. But I also cry during most movies at some point and my family just rolls their eyes but I get attached to things and ideas and when they aren’t there anymore or something shifts I almost can’t process it…
Thanks for contributing to the discussion Misty. Your story is compelling and one I can relate to very much. Even though it is difficult being sensitive in this world we live in, trust me when I say you have a gift that is going to make you a leader in times to come. The journey for you will be to understand yourself completely so that no one can hold power over you. Sign up to get my free customized numerology report at<a href=" http://numerologybirthdate.org ” rel=”nofollow”> http://numerologybirthdate.org . It will help you start the journey within.
I had heard of the 80/20 rule but not in reference to sensitivity so thank you for shedding some light on that!